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sure, either. Each time I seem to go to newer, more delightful levels of loving my wife, which cannot be described. This practice offers the added bonus of affording extra energy, so I am just never tired. Now I can have as much sex as I want and I can control it rather than have it control me. What more can a man ask for?

EXPERIENCE OF AN EXECUTIVE, AGE 38

I am a 38 year old executive for a well known company in New Jersey. When I was 25 years old I was taught a method of sexual control by a Master who forbade me to teach it to anyone else. After about a year I could indulge in sexual intercourse for more than an hour without ejaculating. I've been in this country for about 10 years and I am still not married. I was thankful for having learned such self control because it has enabled me to have continuing relationships with women who enjoy my company.

I heard about Master Chia three years ago and went to see what he could teach me. In three months I opened my Microcosmic Orbit. Then, he taught me Seminal Kung Fu. I was just curious to know whether there was any difference in approach in his method and was willing to pay to find out. I discovered that Master Chia taught a much more detailed and higher level of practice and presented a much more complete program for overall development.

My previous Master had never taught me anything about opening the Microcosmic Orbit nor had he told me what to do with excess power. Master Chia has even taught me how to transmute Ching Ch'i, during sexual intercourse, into power that can be sent up to the head. I feel confident now that I am learning a more complete system. Furthermore, I feel better and stronger and enjoy more feelings of pleasure than ever before. It is most important to transmute the sperm energy into a type that can be used throughout the system. Simply retaining it is no use and doesn't even really manage to keep you from losing fluids.

It is like building a dam. After a while the water just runs over the top. But when I transmute power and send it to my head, I feel my energy routes getting joined and cleared. Otherwise energy builds in areas like the head. Having nowhere else to go, it might cause damage. Right now I'm working on opening the 32 routes that must be opened. This should allow me to accommodate much more power, as there is much more room for it to occupy. So

what's the end? Immortality seems like a long way off, but it beats the hell out of my job. I think I'm going to go for it.

CHAPTER 14

PRACTICAL GUIDELINES TO KEEPING SEX

RADIANT AND HEALTHY

"The Way of the Tao is to unify the spirit. Do this by gathering your vital energy, calming your mind, and harmonizing your will. The body should be regulated neither too hot nor too cold, neither hungry nor overfed. In this way sex is always leisurely and relaxed."

—Plain Woman's advice to the Yellow Emperor

Over the centuries the Taoists observed there were many different ways to maximize the power of love-making and minimize the harmful loss of the sexual energies being exchanged and transformed. For example, assume you had mastered the "Big Draw" so you had perfect control over your orgasm. Suppose you then ate a big meal before making passionate love with your partner for several hours. Afterwards, you took a shower right away and then lay about naked under a cool summer breeze coming through the window.

You very likely neutralized the energizing effects of the sex, °r worse, harmed your health by ignoring that the flow of energy before and after love-making is as important as the flow of chi felt during sex.

Mastering semen retention is an essential step in transforming your sexual energy, but it is worthless if that energy generated is

not harmonized with the rest of your life. The big dinner ties up your digestive energy and the shower and breeze disperse the chi so carefully conserved during sex. Taoists are concerned with keeping the overall flow of life energy in balance and this demands growing awareness of the subtle events that control your life. Here are some observations culled from Taoist teachings on keeping sex radiant and healthy.

1. GET TUNED WITH YOUR PARTNER'S ENERGY

48 HOURS IN ADVANCE

Sex really begins 48 hours in advance of the act, as the energies you accumulate then will express themselves when you go deep into sex. So the day before, during and even after sex you should try to calm down any feeling of agitation or anger, as this, more than almost anything else, will block the balanced flow of energy with your partner and within yourself. A woman's yin nature gives her sensitive antennae to hidden under-currents. So if you are clear, it will help her be clear and relaxed when you begin to make love. If you start on the plane of serenity, sex will more easily take you to a higher level of ecstasy. Be sensitive, stay with your partner; the effort is to move to a deeper state of being together, not just share a momentary climax. Let the sex become part of the larger meditation that is your life.

2. FOREPLAY BEGINS WITH A RELAXED ATMOSPHERE

Remember a woman's erogenous zones are different and often broader, than a man's. Caress her by creating an intimate "home" or bedroom conducive to love-making. Foreplay begins before you even touch a woman's body; dim lighting or candles, soft pillows and loose, natural clothes, sweet smells, music and gentle talk will appeal to her sexual energy and expand her openness to your own.

3. DON'T MAKE LOVE AFTER A BIG MEAL

This common mistake can ruin either your digestion or your lovemaking. Sex and eating are two separate functions that work best when there is no competition for body energy. Sex on a full belly reduces semen production, causes indigestion and harms the

spleen. Wait until your food is fully digested, and the quality of your love making will be much higher. After sex is over, it may be nourishing to eat some warm sweet foods. Herbal tea can be especially tonifying and help a man regain his energy. Avoid cold drinks, ice cream, or ice cubes afterwards—your body has to heat them up which burns off your subtle sexual energy.

4. AVOID INTERCOURSE IN ANY EXTREME STATE

If you are too tired, angry, hungry, afraid, sad, weak, or angry don't have sex. The energy required to make love may throw your health further off balance, and accelerate the development of a minor illness into a major one. A cold acquired from a partner can develop into a flu. If you feel sexual frustration and are literally "bursting" with extreme yang sex energy, engage in sex but with restraint. Don't exhaust the yang energy so that you flip into the opposite "yin" state of exhaustion. This is like a thirsty man dying from gorging on water suddenly found.

You may feel passion and should fully enjoy the body sensations and feelings stimulated by sex, but try not to get lost in their extremes, or the pleasure may turn to pain. When the atmosphere is one of relaxed enjoyment both lovers will find it easier to open to the higher energies within themselves. If one lover moves to an extreme state of arousal, the other may feel left out or unbalanced.

5. DON'T MAKE LOVE WHEN DRUNK ON ALCOHOL

It's hard to control your semen flow much less your chi flow when you're drunk. The feeling of warmth you feel on alcohol is temporary, caused by your blood capillaries opening and releasing your inner energy. Strong physical exertion while drunk may damage your lungs through loss of breath control. One or two drinks may help some people relax without causing loss of control; if you must drink alcohol learn your own limits and stay within them. When your own energy becomes more intensely satisfying than that offered by alcohol, your need for it will drop away naturally, without struggle.

6. URINATE 20 MINUTES BEFORE YOU HAVE

INTERCOURSE

Making love on a full bladder puts stress on your kidneys and thus makes it difficult to feel relaxed during sex. The only time it's advisable to urinate after intercourse is if the woman has her period. The urine will prevent her blood from drying inside the urethra of your penis and blocking it which can be very painful.

You should wait a short while after urinating before having intercourse to give your bladder (or intestines if you defecated) and other vital organs time to return to balance. A short rest lying down should quickly restore them. Otherwise your love making may suffer from irregular rhythm and contribute to the development of ulcer tensions.

7. SEX DURING EXTREME WEATHER CONDITIONS CAN BE

UNHEALTHY

Severe cold or heat, rain and dampness, fog and great winds, thunder and lightning all have an input on the function of your vital organs and electro-magnetic field balance. These can lead to imbalances between love partners and even illness if one is already in a weakened state. Weather is a very powerful force and should be respected. This is especially true if you are attempting to conceive a child, where it is important to create a balanced "home" (parents energy field) for his/her spirit.

8. AVOID HARD PHYSICAL WORK BEFORE AND AFTER

SEX

If you engage in vigorous activity for the couple of hours before and after intercourse it may temporarily deplete the organs and muscles being exercised. This may interfere with the transformation of sexual energy into your higher centers, since the energy will be needed for physical recovery. When you are sweating or feel physically exhausted your life-force can easily leak out of the body. Sex is a proper cure to this condition only if the love making is totally passive and restful.

wear you down. April and May are the best months for sex, as the sperm is in an expanding state. The same amount of sperm is far more dormant in winter, when your energy naturally contracts to survive the cold. If you must ejaculate spring is the best time, with summer and fall next as your surplus declines toward winter.

13. IF YOU ARE ILL MAKE LOVE PASSIVELY

Sex can be very healing for a man in a weakened state, but only if the man assumes a passive role with the woman moving on top. This will allow you to absorb her healing yin energy without losing more of your already depleted yang energy. If you are strong and lover is weak, you can help heal her by assuming the active role. If you feel ill from too much sex, passive love-making without movement can work as a cure. Symptoms will include pain in penis, damp scrotum and low energy.

14. STOP MAKING LOVE IF IT HAS BECOME A ROUTINE

CHORE

Sex becomes mechanical for men when they forget or ignore the proper preparation of women for love-making. Warm the woman with proper foreplay and with warmth of feeling. If you take her body or the sex act for granted the woman will not be properly readied to exchange her love energy through her breasts and lips. If the only contact is genital penis and vagina the energy will not flow to her higher heart and centers into the man. So a man defeats the very goal of what he is seeking if he uses her for a kind of masturbation. He cuts off the return flow of his own sexual energy by engaging in mechanical sex. Better to stop sleeping with your lover than to have "dead" sex—at least then the polarity between you may build up and reawaken you to the attraction that still exists.

If you feel sex is becoming boring, cut back on the frequency of your intercourse. Treat love-making like it was a feast and do it only when you are both feeling extremely healthy and passionate. Stop using sex as an escape from boredom or anger or as a means of masking your hidden fear that the love between you is dead. Quality of love-not quantity of sex is the important thing.

15. DON'T RELY ON SEXUAL FANTASY TO GET AROUSED

The danger of reliance on sexual fantasy is that sex will become limited to a mind trip. The yin and yang energies moving through man and woman are real, not a fantasy. If you limit sex to an idealized image taken from Playboy or invented by your imagination you will find it difficult to experience in your body the profound flow of your deeper energies. If sex becomes a mental play, it can block the deepest play of your being because it is not centered in the body in the present moment but in projecting ahead into the future. How can you love a woman in your arms if you are busy holding another one in your dreams? Both lovers are cheated by this.

The common tendency of the male is to project ahead in time a plan of action. This imagination is a strength when it leads to positive accomplishment. A joint projection of spiritual will shared by lovers can certainly lead to deeper fulfillment.

But sexual fantasy becomes a negative projection, an escape from the present, this is impossible for any real woman to fulfill. Worse, it reduces real women to the level of fantasy objects. It can be an excuse to leave the real woman in your life to go off and pursue an imaginary one. The classical Taoist texts speak of "ghosts" that visit men in their dreams and make intensely passionate love to them. These men are never happy, with their life, constantly seeking their intensity in dreaming, and never awaken to the possibility they could have a more satisfying love with a real woman, with a flesh and blood body and soul if only they spent their energy cultivating that possibility.

But how does one escape the powerful lure of sexual fantasy? By cultivating the flow of one's own energy through healthy physical exercises such as sports, yoga, martial arts, and the Microcosmic Orbit meditation. The Big Draw is also effective if done whenever you catch yourself falling into fantasy. If you transform your energy up to the crown of your head each time you get an erection or feel a sexual fantasy coming on, you will eventually master that tendency in yourself.

Another way of mastering sexual fantasy is to live it out if the opportunity presents itself-engage in your idea of wildly erotic behavior or pursue women you know at heart are not for you—but observe yourself carefully and ask what the real satisfaction gained