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In accordance with nature Winter was believed to be the season of storage and accumulation of energy. For a man this means he should conserve his semen and increase his "hot" energy by eating hot and warming and fortifying foods during winter, and cooler foods in the summer.

SEPARATE STEPS TO TAKE FOR MEN AND WOMEN TO

ACHIEVE

YIN/YANG BALANCE

Too much yang food makes a woman hard and insensitive (foods such as meats, eggs, and dairy foods).

Too much yin food can make a man soft and incapable of having an erection.

FOOD FOR SEXUAL ORGANS

During sexual intercourse a great deal of "hot chi" is released, and anything that supplements this hot chi is considered a great help. This means that foods that are extremely cold should be avoided because they bring down the chi quotient of the body. On the other hand, foods that are cold but stimulate the Kidneys can be eaten since the Kidney is in charge of the sexual apparatus and is thus stimulated. Examples of extremely cold foods to be avoided are: coconut milk, mentholated wines, chrysanthemum tea, and ice water.

Foods that provide nourishment to the entire organism are adviseable after sexual activity, for example, muscle and organ meats, ginger, red dates, sharks fin, swallow nest, and sea cucumber. These are examples of tonic foods, in that they build the energy of the body.

CHAPTER 17

BIOLOGICAL FACTS EVERY MAN SHOULD KNOW ABOUT FEMALE SEXUALITY

Few things confuse men more than women's bodies and their monthly cycles. Women's bodies are different from men and this alters their psychological and spiritual path of development. Many spiritual groups don't discuss the female body because it carries such a loaded charge of sexual energy they don't like dealing with it. But men need to understand woman and her biology if he is to move beyond the level of emotional struggle and come into complete harmony with her yin essence. As Taoist sex brings a man into the most intimate contact he'll ever have with a woman's body, I am including some brief but important pieces of information about their sexual organs and reproductive cycle. This will be vastly expanded in volume two of this series, "Taoist Secrets Of Love: Cultivating Female Sexual Energy," also known as Ovarian Kung Fu.

The best education you can get is from loving a woman and observing how her particular subtle energies change with the moon and seasons of nature. If a man cultivates his yang energy he can have a powerful effect in strengthening his lover's body and stabilizing her energy cycles. When the subtle energies of yin and yang have proper intercourse, the hormones and vital organs function at a more refined level and produce radiant good health.

FERTILE MUCUS

Before ovulation, the glands lining the cervical canal start producing a slippery, stretchy clear or translucent mucus which flows down the cervical canal and into the vagina. There may be enough for a woman to be well aware of it, or she may just notice a slickness around the opening to her vagina. The molecular structure of this mucus is like tunnels and ladders, giving sperm direction and support in their journey toward the cervical canal.

Ten minutes after ejaculation into the vagina, some sperm can be found in the fallopian tubes. Sperm also find their way into the crypts lining the cervical canal where they are nourished by the mucus and time-released out over a period of three to five days. So, if a woman and a man have intercourse on Saturday night and she has fertile mucus but doesn't ovulate till Tuesday, she could get pregnant some time on Wednesday.

NONFERTILE MUCUS

During the rest of her cycle, a woman may notice periods of relative wetness and dryness. The cervical mucus produced during the nonfertile times varies in quantity and is usually white and sticky. The molecular structure of this mucus is like a mesh or grid, preventing most sperm from entering the cervix. Observation of the mucus cycle aids many women in determining their fertile times.

MENSTRUATION

About two weeks after ovulation, if a woman has not gotten pregnant, the lining of the uterus, which has been building up to make a nest for a developing embryo, sloughs off and another period begins.

The menstrual cycle is measured as the time between one period and the next, counting the first day of bleeding as Day 1. Most women menstruate about once a month, although few women have periods exactly every 28 days, which is denoted as the "norm" or "ideal." Regular cycles can vary as much as from three to seven weeks. Some women who have only two to three periods a year are often unaware of any cycle.

For many women, their periods are a sign of the health functioning of their body, occurring more or less "on time," lasting three to five days, and requiring a certain amount of paraphernalia and attention to hygiene. For sexually active heterosexual women their period is the sign that they are not pregnant. From the Taoist viewpoint, the loss of blood is a loss of valuable energy that can be minimized or altogether stopped if the woman has finished bearing children. The Taoist method is reversible should the woman change her mind.

The typical period often starts out "light," that is with a small amount of pink-tinged mucus or a few drops of blood, increasing to a bright red full flow on the second day and perhaps going on for a couple of days, then diminishing to brownish "spotting" as it tapers off. Some women bleed a lot; for some, their periods start and end dramatically, like turning on and off of a faucet; some have very little bleeding. Some women's blood is dark and can have clots varying from specks to the size of a dime; some women's periods have a lot of mucus. The blood as it comes out of the cervical canal has virtually no odor or taste. These characteristics change with exposure to air and the passage of time as cells break down.

Many women commonly experience some discomfort during their periods: swollen, sore breasts, fluid retention, pimples, headaches, low back pain, diarrhea or constipation. Some women with chronic herpes are likely to have an outbreak around the time of their period, indicating some of the "stress" imposed on the body by her period. The uterus, which is a muscular organ, can contract, which sometimes feels like a cramp does in any muscle of the body, or may be described as pressure, ache, or a bearing down feeling. A few women are absolutely incapacitated by their periods, e.g., with severe pain or vomiting. Virtually no research has been done to understand such recurrent misery and Western allopathic doctors only offer these women strong and possibly dangerous medications to relieve the symptoms.

Women are intimately familiar with their own cycles but rarely exchange these details with friends or relatives. Most American women are deeply ashamed of their menstrual blood, feel humiliated and embarassed if they stain their clothes, and are very

self-conscious about bulges of sanitary pads, odors, and the discreet disposal of bloody pads or tampons.

EMOTIONAL CHANGES

Some women experience mood changes around the time of their periods, but studies have not been able to document any patterns in large numbers of women.

Most women can identify a part of their cycle when they feel "horny" and indeed every portion of the menstrual cycle, including the period itself, has been claimed by some women as being the time when she feels her sexual desire most strongly.

WOMEN'S SEXUAL ANATOMY

So, let's take a look at women's genitals. Starting at the front and top is the Mount of Venus (mon veneris, or mons, for short). The amount, texture and distribution of pubic hair can vary from a few straight hairs to a bushy growth going up the abdomen or down the thighs. The mons is a cushion of fat protecting the pubic bone underneath (which is joined together by cartilage that softens during pregnancy so that the bones can separate if necessary during childbirth). The mons divides and separates into the large outer lips (labia majora).

INNER LIPS

Inside the outer lips are the inner lips (labia minora)—very different in color and texture, they are related to the mucous surfaces, like the lips of the mouth. In the unaroused state they vary in color from pink to dusky to dark maroon/purple. Sometimes the inner lips are long and can be seen protruding from the outer lips. During sexual arousal the small lips, which are well-supplied with blood vessels, get engorged and swell to two or three times their resting size! As the point of no return approaches orgasm they can go through a color change sometimes turning to crimson or dark wine. (Masters & Johnson)

Follow the small lips to the top where they join together to form the hood that protects the glans of the clitoris. Usually the glans, in the unerect state, is nestled under the hood. You can see it

by pulling back on the hood. The glans of the clitoris is loaded with nerves, and for most women the glans is the most acutely sensitive spot in their sexual anatomy. Some women find it is so sensitive that direct stimulation can be irritating.

THE SHAFT OF THE CLITORIS

The shaft of the clitoris can be felt like a strong rubber band under the surface between the glans and mons. As sexual excitement mounts, the shaft thickens and shortens and the glans, shaft and supporting structures erect. As with men, there is often a dramatic change in size and shape.

THE GLANS

Travelling down from the glans is the opening to the urethra. Below this is the opening to the vagina. A woman's urethra is about IVi" long from the outside to where it opens into the bladder. Surrounding the urethra is a plexus of blood vessels. Since these blood vessels had no name in medical books, a group of women named it the urethral sponge (A New View of a Woman's Body). During sexual excitement the blood vessels engorge and a bulge can be felt through the vaginal wall. This bulge has been named the G spot (after Grafenberg, one of the first sexologists). It can be explored by feeling around the front and upper part of the vagina. (It has also been said that the G spot is located Vi inch deeper than a woman's longest finger).

THE POSITION OF THE G SPOT

Making love in a face-to-face position, the G spot can be difficult to reach directly (with the exception of those men whose penises, when erect, press right up against their bellies). Shallow thrusting gets closest to the G spot and can cause that stimulation of the suggestive and tantalizing kind.

However, a change in position may be necessary if a woman wants her G spot stimulated more directly. Fingers are often most effective and direct. A woman stimulating herself might choose to squat or lie with her legs up in order to reach it better. Her partner might find it easier to reach if she is lying on her stomach; during

coitus, if the woman is on top she can position herself more precisely.

Some women, when holding their man tight, enjoy the sensation of an erect penis rubbing on their lower abdomen, right above the pubic bone, stimulating the G spot from the other side.

When the G spot is massaged, often a woman's first impression is that she has to urinate. However, sexologists assure women that if the pressure is continued there will be a transition to sexual arousal. The sexual response to G spot stimulation may also have to be learned by some women and it can take several sessions for it to feel good. (Perry and Whipple)

Some women find that stimulation of the G spot can trigger their orgasm, while many women enjoy G spot stimulation as part of the whole panoply of sexual stimulation.

With or without G spot stimulation, there are women who ejaculate when they orgasm. This ejaculate, which can be quite copious, is much like seminal fluid. It is not urine. However, many women who experienced ejaculation report they were dismayed, felt sure they had urinated, and they learned to withhold this reaction. Now that the word is out about women's ejaculations there will probably be much relief and relaxation and increased enjoyment by the women who have this particular capacity. No research has yet uncovered where this fluid is made or stored.

THE WALLS OF THE VAGINA

Inside the vagina, the walls rest against each other, creating a potential space. The walls of the vagina are pink and have many folds, accounting for its tremendous elasticity. During sexual arousal lubricative fluid oozes out of the walls in a kind of sweating action.

Across from the urethral sponge there is an area of blood vessels protecting the anus called perineal sponge. This can be felt through the lower back part of the vagina. During the plateau phase the perineal sponge thickens, further narrowing the entrance to the vagina.